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Saturday, 6 April 2013

my family


My family are the centre of my entire world ~ the laughter and the tears, the past and the future, the hopes and the reality.  Most days I get frustrated, most days I shout (loudly), and every couple of months I feel overwhelmingly sad, and it all becomes too much so I hide away from the world until the fog lifts.  Our lives are our people ...  those people we share our days and hours and minutes and seconds with; those people who know our most hidden of fears and most treasured of hopes; those people we hold so close they become a part of ourselves; those people that make us real.


My family is . . .

. . . a funny bunch of people that I love very much.  Smiler, who comes complete with a medical dictionary, usually has a cheeky grin on his face, and eyes that alight with sparks of mischief at the slightest provocation.  Although he has faced a  multitude of challenges in his eleven years (and counting), Smiler has retained his sense of fun throughout and, although I'm obviously utterly biased, I think he's a hugely kind~hearted, amazingly determined and completely gorgeous child, who is going to grow up to be an inspirational adult.  Next in line is Noah, a year younger than Smiler.   Very much like his dad (Mr Manley), Noah has a wonderfully relaxed attitude towards life ~ most of the time!  He loves to read, often taking a book to read in the car even on short journeys, and right now is very into Doctor Who.  He and I don't always see eye to eye, but Noah is developing into an enthusiastic and capable individual, increasing in confidence month by month.  Petal is the youngest, a year younger than Noah, but definitely the bossy boots of the bunch.  Loves animals, loves drawing, loves junk modeling ~ bit of a hoarder I think, like me.  Eli is a fantastic addition to the household, and definitely adds to the fun, even just going out for a walk, or taking him to get a haircut, playing in the snow ~ he also doubles as a weighted blanket for Smiler on those days he wants something warm and soft and fluffy and heavy on his lap ~ it's a win win!  Mr Manley is the gorgeous individual I seem to have somehow bamboozled into being with me.  He looks after me when I'm low, and helps me get a little perspective when I need it.

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My family is . . .

. . . chaos. Day to day life in a family of five is always going to be teetering on the edge of chaos, and while we usually manage to come down just on the 'not quite there this time' side, there are plenty of times we've been getting on with something and a sudden flash of clarity has left me gazing around, wondering how we had managed to get ourselves into this.  From 'do other people ever do this, or am I really strange?' {trying to get ready more quickly in the morning by putting my socks on while I'm sat on the toilet} to 'maybe if I just completely ignore it, it will go away' {small girl child's verruca} via 'does it really matter?' {that the kids are having beans on toast for lunch for the third time this week} and 'I'm sure I'll be able to knit much faster' {if I bought some fancy new needles}. 

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My family is . . .

. . . memories.  Looking back now, I'm somehow surprised that we made it through those first first few years ~ three babies born in less than three years!  Early days with Smiler were busy and complicated, but I think being given such a grim prognosis, combined with him being our first child, actually meant that ever little thing he learnt to do was a huge deal!  We tried do a range of things that would be fun for them ~ plenty of painting and cooking and soft play ~ trying to show them as much of the world as we could.  There are so many memories of daft things we did ~ playing at being hairdressers, and dressing up as sausage rolls ~ by sharing these I'd like to think that someone else gives something equally silly a try!

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My family is  . . .

. . . looking forward.  I love how independent Noah and Petal have become over the last couple of years ~ I guess since Smiler has his own timetable we can appreciate the changes in the type of parenting Noah and Petal require, compared to Smiler.  Ordinary family activities suddenly become much more complex when you need to know about wheelchair access and changing facilities, every day trip has to be checked out in advance, which can cut into the spontaneity just a tad!  Petal and Noah can both ride bikes now, which means a little more free fun is on the menu this summer, and since Smiler is doing pretty well on his feet I'm thinking we're going to be out and about a fair bit.



So there it is ~ my family.

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