Tuesday, 28 May 2013

bad mother alert

In WHSmith a couple of days ago, I was nosing around on the clearance shelf (as one does...) and wondered ~ just who it is that buys the fancy letter writing set that is missing the writing paper and pen (so just some fancy envelopes then...) ; and the occasional dried up pritstick with no lid?  Very cheap Christmas wrapping paper in May I can understand, but scratch and sniff stickers that have been decorated by a stationary tsunami of black ink?  Really?

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Anyway, I spotted some little badges and magnets, most likely leftovers from stock made to cash in on Mother's day.  You know, cartoon~style illustrations of fairies and loopy script proclaiming 'I'm so proud that you're my mum', a fluffy haired lipstick aficionado teetering on towering high heels declaring 'world's best mum'.  Petal wondered over to see what I was up to and I showed her, dropping an oh so subtle hint . . . 'isn't it pretty ... I don't have a mum really, but wouldn't it be a sweet little present if I did?'

I know.

I am genuinely ashamed of myself.

And, of course, she's eight.

And kind.

And thoughtful.

So while I queued up to pay for my wrapping paper (10m of silver foil snowflakes reduced from £8 to 25p!) and pretended not to notice, she oh so casually wandered over to her dad, and went with him to another till.

How low is that?  I'm so desperate to be told I'm a good mum that I completely manipulated my daughter to try and make me feel better about myself.  It's like asking someone if they love you ~ if you ask, you'll never know if it's true or if they're just trying to spare your feelings.  

Have you ever questioned the entirety of your parenting, or manipulated your kids into providing reassurance?


  1. Ahmmm... Yes. I did. I do. Should we be scorned now? I am known to complain to my husband every other month that my children don't love me, are disappointed I am their mum, and that I basically failed everyone of them. I try to contain it to nights though. From my kids I usually "just" steal kisses and hugs, drop shameless hints about presents, and every time we go on holiday I remind them all that being a mum is the hardest job and therefore I am entitled to a mummy day, in which every one does what mummy wants. Oh, and did I forget to mention the fact that we only celebrate mother's day and not father's day?
    Ah, writing all this made me feel a little less normal... Oopsy.
    Thanks for linking with my #DreadfulDays :)

    1. Fantastic - helps me feel not so bad now!

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    1. :-)
      And all this'd time I thought I was the only one . . . !

  3. I loved this and will admit to giggling despite the fact you felt guilty...... Kids constantly make us feel guilty so maybe (please don't judge me!) we make them feel guilty back. It can be seen as a lesson in giving and receiving??????? Seriously, despite your hint, the gift would not have been bought if your girl didn't want to buy it for you xx

    1. Crikey, as if I'm in a position to do any judging! She is a sweetie, so maybe by giving her opportunities to be kind I'm doing her a favour - it's so important to encourage these traits in our children . . .
      Thank you so much for visiting and taking the time to comment - plenty of giggles (and guilt) around here, so do add your email address to the box if you'd like to read more!
      Take care


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