Friday, 4 April 2014

Word Of The Week

The Reading Residence

I've been out of the loop for a couple of weeks, but my Word Of The Week for this weeks Linky (hosted add always by the lovely Jocelyn of The Reading Residence) is support.

Sup·port   (sə-pôrt′, -pōrt′)
tr.v. sup·port·edsup·port·ingsup·ports
1. To bear the weight of, especially from below.
2. To hold in position so as to keep from falling, sinking, or slipping.
3. To be capable of bearing; withstand: "His flaw'd heart . . . too weak the conflict to support" (Shakespeare).
4. To keep from weakening or failing; strengthen: The letter supported him in his grief.
5. To provide for or maintain, by supplying with money or necessities.
6. To furnish corroborating evidence for: New facts supported her story.
a. To aid the cause, policy, or interests of: supported her in her election campaign.
b. To argue in favor of; advocate: supported lower taxes.
8. To endure; tolerate: "At supper there was such a conflux of company that I could scarcely support the tumult" (Samuel Johnson).
9. To act in a secondary or subordinate role to (a leading performer).
a. The act of supporting.
b. The state of being supported.
2. One that supports.
3. Maintenance, as of a family, with the necessities of life.

I often hear conversations where women seem to be vying for the title of 'my man is the worst'.  One recounts a tale of woe, involving a failed attempt at DIY perhaps; the next challenges this with a forgotten birthday story; both of which are then trumped by an unfortunately timed orgasm "and I was left behind" (overheard in the toilets in Debenhams last week).  I'm not sure why an individual would so enthusiastically criticise the person they have decided to spend time with - after all, doesn't this actually say more about them than their partner?

I digress.

I am very much in love with Mr Manley.  I know, I know, I can hear the heckles from here, as well as picturing you all miming vomiting.  But it's the truth.  Which is not to say there have been no failed attempts at DIY, forgotten occasions or *ahem* that I have never been 'left behind'.  But these fade into the background during every day life, day to day being together.  But still, I sometimes get reminded all over again when he does the one thing that helps.  I struggle with depression, and have done for - well, for as long as I can remember.  And on days that I can't see any light at the end of that tunnel, he will sit with me, or hold my hand, or talk to me, or put a favourite film on.  He knows that he can't 'fix it', and he doesn't try - he can be with me and I can be sad without feeling like I have to pretend, or smile, or speak even if I don't want to.  And knowing that I have his support - that he can see me at my worst and still want to hold me close - that is hugely important to me.

So thank you, Mr Manley, for your support.  You may not even realize it, but you strengthen me every single day.

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       The Reading Residence


  1. Aww... im sure he appreciates this post. I am proud of my lover too. 2 jobs, bouncy kid and a moody wife (me) .. thats so much and he is handling us well =)

    1. Glad you have a good one too! People are so quick to criticise sometimes, you know? (And I'm sure he doesn't think you're moody - well, not all the time anyway!) Give him an extra squeeze this weekend, from me - good people do not get enough credit generally, so tell him I'm showing my appreciation for bringing so many smiles into the world!

  2. A wonderful post and tribute to your husband. I know what you mean, and I adore my husband, too - faults and all, as we all have them! But he's my rock, so I cannot complain. Great word, and thanks for joining in again x #WotW

  3. @ RamblingThroughParenthood: I think it is a lovely word and am sure your man appreciates how lucky he is to have you #wotw


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