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Friday, 25 July 2014

word of the week

The summer holidays are here, and apparently the sun has been notified of this fact - it's been absolutely gorgeous here in Bristol, and the kids have been making the most of it - sleeping in a tent in the garden (or more accurately not sleeping in a tent in the garden), splashing in the paddling pool, collecting sticks for our wildlife corner - good wholesome fun.  It's not the fun that has given me my word of this week though, but the lack of it - well, potentially anyway.  Linking up to The Reading Residence as always, my word of the week this week is

expectations

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expectation (ˌɛkspɛkˈteɪʃən)
n
1. the act or state of expecting or the state of being expected
2. (usually plural) something looked forward to, whether feared or hoped for: we have great expectations for his futuretheir worst expectations.
3. an attitude of expectancy or hope; anticipation: to regard something with expectation.
4. (Statistics) statistics
a. the numerical probability that an event will occur
b. another term for expected value
expectative adj

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School holidays in my house are nothing like the smiley happy lovely holidays other families seem to have - much more strops and spills and arguments.  But I don't think our summer is really all that different to everyone else's, it's just that I focus on the tough bits and others don't!  So, this time around, I'm doing the 'managing expectations' thing - not other people's, just mine.  Instead of hoping this last week (encompassing the end of term and those first few heady days of not school) would be all happiness and excitement and anticipation and playing board games and holding hands and singing songs, I made a purposeful choice to expect arguments over who sits in which seat in the car, elbowing each other out of the way to snatch the biggest biscuit off the plate, and lots of exchanges along the lines of 'muuum, she called me an idiot', 'only because he trod on my picture', 'if she didn't want me to tread on it she shouldn't have left it on the grass' and 'you didn't have to keep stamping on it though, that was just mean!'

So, lesson of my week - expectations - keep them realistic and there's less chance of ending up crying in the corner because it has all gone terribly wrong!

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The Reading Residence

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10 comments:

  1. Oh, you're absolutely right! There are arguments, strops, too much TV-the works here! Take just now for example-I'm writing on the PC early because I know I'll never get a chance until much much later this evening and by then I'm usually too knackered to bother, but both children have been in asking me 'when can I go on it?') But I too am trying to be realistic and I do genuinely enjoy being at home with the children, even though my head space suffers. Life is always about compromising though isn't it. Enjoy your summer :)

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    1. You're right - there's no way around the compromises! I think that's why it's so important for me that I recognise not everything will go according to plan - otherwise I feel like I've failed and they're having a crap time, when in reality they will have forgotten about the daft squabble over who gets which water pistol in seconds! Hope your holidays are fun for all of you!
      Take care
      Lucas

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  2. I think if everyone was honest no summer holidays are all smiles. I hope you have a lovely summer x #WotW

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  3. Our holidays have been ok so far but it's only the first week......Give it a few weeks and there will be arguments and shouting.....Hope you have a great summer!

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    1. So far so good then! The novelty seems to wear off for mine after about a day! I'm never sure whether it's better to have cheap days out andicnics etc planned or to just leave them to their own devices - a mixture is best I guess!
      Have a fab summer!
      Lucas

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    2. ...that was meant to say 'and picnics etc' in case you were wondering!

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  4. I know just whaat you mean and when children grow into teens it doesn't really change either - still lots of bickering and rivalry! I find it hard to deal with disappointment when things don't run smoothly or as I'd expected but I'm getting better at just focusing on the now and letting the small stuff go. Wishing you a restful summer! Helen

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  5. Sounds like you're ten steps ahead of me! Hope your summer goes smoothly too!
    Take care
    Lucas

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  6. I feel that I am letting my son down lately as we dont go out much and i feel he is missing out. But you are right when you say lower your expectations and things will be better! #wotw

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